MANY fantasise about swinging, but few can make it work. Nikki Goldstein has been in sex clubs and seen what really goes down. Courtesy: Openminded. STANDING on the side of the road at am with the rain pelting down, I was shielded from the wet weather but drenched from tears of the woman in my arms.
I was consoling her because her boyfriend had just walked off in a fit of anger after witnessing her erotically massaged by another man at a private sex club. Ill-prepared couples often jump into this world of swinging, where there are many misconceptions and false fantasies and a high risk of someone ending up in tears. Sometimes hearts, sexual confidence, egos and relationships are broken. It is still taboo to talk about sex and the subject of swinging or attending sex clubs is probably not one discussed at the office water cooler.
It is a world protected by privacy and anonymity, something that is also responsible for those eager to check it out first hand.
If we were more open about sex, maybe we would make our decisions from a more informed place rather than a desire to explore unknown taboos for all the wrong reasons. The problem is, how will you ever know what it feels like to watch your partner with someone else until you see it? This is why preparation, communication and education are a must. Most clubs in Australia are exclusive but still open to the general public and are either for couples or single females with some having all singles nights.
They are hidden and off the beaten track and are BYO. Some have rooms full of mattresses and swings and others couches or beds. Some even look like hotel rooms with showers. Many of these places from the outside would seem to be just normal apartments, town houses or factories and you might not even know if one was next door to you. At best they can be great places to explore your sexuality, but it also takes a special type of couple to be able to survive it.
